unspoken lessons from my father, in chronological order

• figure out how to take care of yourself
• your emotions can be uncomfortable, shameful
• compose yourself in front of others
• you can say no
• you need courage to go places
• try and appreciate many things
• find humor in life
• understand the value of reaching a baseline level of health
• do not compromise yourself prematurely
• you can try again
• understand the value of reaching a baseline level of security
• you can reach for more